SEYMOUR JOHNSON AIR FORCE BASE, N.C. -- With October almost over, domestic violence awareness month is wrapping up. This does not mean bringing awareness to others has to stop; domestic violence has no place in the Air Force or its community. Knowing the proper procedures and warning signs could potentially help save a fellow wingman’s life.
Dealing with domestic abuse can be a difficult conversation topic for anyone, especially the victim. Some of the signs can be recognized early to potentially stop further mental or physical abuse.
According to Jana Sabin, 4th Medical Group domestic abuse victim advocate, there are many signs of an abusive relationship.
“One of the most telling signs is fear of your partner,” said Sabin. “If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner or you are always watching what you say and do in order to avoid a blow up, chances are your relationship could possibly be abusive.”
Jerome Ellis, 4th Medical Group interim family advocacy officer and outreach manager, said a controlling relationship could be the start to an abusive relationship.
“If you have a significant other that monitors your every move and tries to dictate your life- who you hang out with, when you see your family, when you can go out- that could be a serious sign of abuse, whether it be physical or mental,” said Ellis.
If any of these signs are present during relationships getting help is the number one priority, but also the most challenging step.
“Typically in violent relationships it can mentally break down the victim, causing them to feel low and not want to seek help,” said Sabin. “Also, fear can play a big part in if the victim seeks help or not; fear for financial stability, children, and even fear of the abuser.”
Sabin said other reasons people have trouble asking for help could include religious beliefs along with the environment the victim was raised in. They may feel abuse is acceptable in a relationship.
Fortunately, there are many resources on base that specialize in helping victims of domestic abuse.
The Family Advocacy Office is the primary office of responsibility for all domestic violence incidents.
“A person should not feel like they have to stay in an abusive relationship,” said Sabin. “Here at family advocacy, we discuss their options, provide them with resources and help them develop a safety plan.”
If you suspect somebody you know is being abused, speak up. Your concern can save lives.
Call the Family Advocacy office at (919)-722-1878 or visit www.militaryonesource.com